Why Do So Many Women Want to Weigh What Their Bodies Don’t Want To?

It’s one of the strangest things about modern life: so many women spend years — sometimes decades — trying to weigh what their bodies clearly don’t want to weigh.

We fight our biology as if it’s a moral test. We treat hunger like an enemy. We chase a number as if peace with food can only be earned through control.

But here’s the truth: it’s not instinct — it’s conditioning.

From a young age, most of us are taught that smaller means better. Magazines, influencers, even well-meaning health campaigns have told us that a lighter body equals a better life — more confident, more admired, more “disciplined.”The result? Entire generations of women living in quiet conflict with their own bodies.

Your Body Has a Set-Point — and It’s Trying to Protect You

Every body has what’s called a set-point range — the weight your body naturally defends when you’re eating and living without restriction. It’s not a single number; it’s a biological balance point, influenced by genetics, hormones, and life history.

When you eat below that range for too long, your body pushes back — slowing metabolism, ramping up hunger, and turning your thoughts toward food. It’s not sabotage. It’s self-preservation.

So when women say, “I just can’t keep the weight off,” what they really mean is, “My body is working exactly as it’s meant to.”

The New “Fix”: Weight-Loss Jabs

And yet, as if dieting weren’t enough, we’re now surrounded by a new wave of quick fixes: weight-loss injections.

Scroll through social media and you’ll see endless ads — many selling fake or unregulated products, which can be dangerous or even life-threatening.

But the deeper irony? Even the real ones don’t truly “work.”

Yes, medical weight-loss drugs can suppress appetite for a while, and some people see short-term results. But they don’t fix the underlying biology that’s trying to protect you. The moment the medication stops, appetite rebounds — often with intense hunger and food obsession.

That’s not weakness. That’s physiology.

The Real Problem: We Think Peace Means Giving Up

So why do we keep fighting?Because we’ve been taught that letting go means failure — that trusting your appetite is reckless, that rest is laziness, that comfort in your own body is somehow “settling.”

But what if the opposite is true?What if the most courageous thing you can do is trust your body, not control it?

Listening Instead of Fighting

When you stop trying to force your body into submission, you begin to hear what it’s been saying all along:

“I’m not broken. I’m protecting you.”

Your body isn’t your enemy — it’s your oldest ally.And the moment you start listening, the war with food begins to end.

Ready to Stop Fighting Your Body?

Join me inside The Appetite Club — a free space to learn how to silence food chatter, rebuild body trust, and find peace with eating again.

You can join for free or book a free consultation to start your journey back to a calm, natural relationship with food.

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